Etiquette
Success Follows the Rules
Etiquette with an escort is of paramount importance. Those who do not follow it… directement, à la poubelle.
I always commit to stating my boundaries clearly, and I will share some more personal ones when we meet as well. In return, I expect and need you to commit to respecting my boundaries 100% of the time. This will all but guarantee smooth sailing once we meet.
Breaking any of my rules carries the risk of my breaking the date off immediately, at your financial loss.
Photos / Recording
I am never to be photographed or recorded at any time, ever. The only exception would be my handing you my phone to take a photo of me for myself.
Also, no secret photography/filming. This is a felony offense. It should be obvious to never do this.
Discretion
Envelope: If we meet in a hotel room, please leave the (unsealed) envelope on the nightstand for me to find. Do not acknowledge it. If we meet in public, please hand the envelope to me hidden inside a gift bag, a book (I love receiving books as gifts), or any creative, disguising manner you choose, and again, do not acknowledge it in any way. Etiquette with an escort sometimes demands a level of pretense.
Company: Never surprise me with the company of anyone you know. If we meet, I am consenting to be seen and heard only by you. Once we know each other better, I may consider attending professional functions and parties.
PDA (Public Display of Affection)
Please, no PDA. We can share an abundance of affection in public through our eyes, words, and laughter. Be classy, and speak discreetly. No one within eyesight or earshot should be able to infer our arrangement. I simply don’t want judgmental glances from those around us.
Appearances
While together in public, if we look very different from each other to the extent that we look like quite an unlikely couple, please treat me, both physically and verbally, like a respected colleague. We can be amorous in private. Please understand that this does not reflect how I feel about you as a person. I simply don’t like getting stared at, and I would guess you feel the same…thanks for working with me here!
Etiquette with an Escort: Hygiene
Please be immaculately clean.
If your facial stubble is especially rough, please shave beforehand, to spare my delicate skin.
Let’s shower, brush our teeth, and wash our hands often.
When you shower. Be thorough.
If you have phimosis, physical intimacy will not be possible, so I am not a great date option for you.
Privacy, Tact, and Decency
There are some things better left unsaid and undone, as I do not forgive easily.
Do not try to find out any of my personal information or where I live. Also, do not try to get me to change our arrangement to anything that does not benefit me financially or otherwise.
Please, no lurid questions about my lifestyle. It’s off-putting, and displays a lack of tact.
Do not to try to start a crass political or religious debate – yes, it is crass, and tremendously un-sexy.
I have met some politically conservative men who were lovely dates (treated me with respect), but I have had problems with the majority of conservatives I’ve met. If you think you “respect women” but think that my feelings, boundaries, and ability to consent are a joke, look elsewhere.
In short, simply be decent. In return, I promise to try not to push your boundaries. Part of why people like me so much is that I put sincere effort into making them feel good and appreciated, and I enjoy doing that. I accept nothing less from my date.
The point is to have fun, and not do anything that undermines that aim.
Lastly
⚜ Always communicate respectfully. Err on the side of too much decorum rather than being too casual and overly-familiar.
⚜ Never de-prioritize my health. If needed, think for a moment on what that could encompass.
⚜ You must possess a working knowledge of intimate partner health and safety, as well as the concept of enthusiastic consent.
⚜ You must view women as entitled to the same level of respect, courtesy, and freedom as men.
In conclusion, most men I meet have no issue at all following these rules, as they see them as second nature, and can’t fathom having a problem with any of it.
Now that it’s out of the way, if you like how I think, and you appreciate how much thought and care I put into ensuring I stay happy, healthy, and genuinely pleased to meet you, please proceed to the Reservation form…
